Talking With Your Teen Daughter About Vibrators

Talking With Your Teen Daughter About Vibrators

Your teen daughter is at that point where you know she's going to be experimenting with sex, and you aren't sure what to do. As a mother, you need to sit down with her and have an honest discussion about her sexual life and whether she's ready to use vibrators.

Start an Open Sex Conversation

Talking about sex with your teen daughter isn't going to be easy. However, if you let her know that she can talk with you about her sex life without judgment, you can create an open dialogue that may be very welcoming. Learn about whether she's having sex or if she has experimented with masturbation, etc.

You can also talk about her potential sexual preferences, such as whether she likes boys, girls, or both. Keep the conversation serious but open, letting her know that it's okay to feel how she wants and that you're here to support her.

Be Honest About Your Sex Life

During your sex talk, your daughter is going to ask you some rather sharp and potentially embarrassing questions about your sex life. She may ask if you and your partner still have sex and whether you use a vibrator. Hide nothing from her: talk about your sex life and your history with vibrators.

For example, let her know if you have used them in the past, if you use them now, or if you haven't used them at all. This openness helps her have some more context for your discussion and can make it a more enjoyable one.

Discuss Safe Use

Talk to your daughter about how she can safely use her vibrator, including setting the proper power level, how to hold it, and how much pressure she can use. Find websites that discuss these steps and make sure that she understands the potential problems associated with excessive vibrator use.

Also, create guidelines for her using it that can help ensure she gets privacy. For example, try to set specific times she can use them in the day, or signs she can give you she plans on using one. 

Highlight Great Vibrators

After you've opened up this conversation and gotten your daughter engaged with you, it is important to discuss a few vibrator options that may suit her needs. There are many models on the market that she may enjoy, and you can give your insight into them if you have experience with any.

If it's been a few years since you've tried any vibrators or you want to talk about newer models you may have never tried, you can discuss things like a small bunny vibrator and other unique options that may expand her solo sex life.

Shop For Them Together

This part of the process might be the most fun or awkward, depending on your daughter and yourself. You might find it a little uncomfortable to shop for vibrators together, especially if you plan on buying one for yourself. Or you might find it very rewarding and unforgettable if done right.

The trick here is to have fun with it and make sure that the two of you enjoy each other's company. This kind of experience can produce a stronger bond between the two of you that may make your relationship more enjoyable.

You Can Do This

Before trying out this step, we encourage you to take a deep breath, meditate, calm yourself down, and understand that your daughter is a mature, intelligent, and insightful person. She's going to be a woman soon and, with your help, she can get there with a level of maturity that makes her sex life wonderful.